S1:E6 - Becky Jo Harris: Bold Steps to Comedy Stardom

Welcome to bold moves. The show spotlighting fearless trailblazers, entrepreneurs, and visionaries forging new paths across Arizona and beyond. Each episode, we dive deep into uplifting stories, game changing strategies, and the unstoppable spirit powering real transformation. Whether you're launching a business, chasing a dream, or reshaping your community, get ready to unleash your boldness. Join your host, Mat Torres, as he sparks your imagination, amplify action, and help you thrive. So buckle up, and let's ignite your boldest moves yet. Alrighty. Well, welcome back. This is the Bold Moves podcast. Um, so I'm very excited. I've got, like, a really good friend and special guest, uh, miss Becky Jo Harris. Becky, would you like to say hello? Hi. Awesome. See you, Matt. Yeah. So I'm gonna I'm gonna fill, like, uh, the audience, you know, in on how we met. So, um, we went to acting class. So I'm talking, like, to a lot of actors. This is, like, really fun. Um, but we are in in the late Bill Howie's class. Um, Bill Howie was an amazing guy. And for those that don't know, he did pass away. Um, but Carla is there, and she's doing a phenomenal job. Carla is Bill's wife. And, um, but that's where we met. And I I still remember the day when we when we had our first class, and, um, I remember, uh, I had to, like, get in front of your face, and we had to do, like, this. No. No. You didn't. You did not. Did not. We had to go back and forth. Remember do you remember that? Wait. What was it? Um, I didn't. You did. I didn't. You did. And then it got heated. Yeah. I I I remember, um, I had to, like, release, like, you know, the the kraken, the anger. You know? And I I still remember, like, the look on your face, and you're kinda like, woah. Like, who's who's this? I don't even remember. I must have blocked it out. Too much trauma. Um, awesome. Well, do you wanna take a second just to kind of, like, you know, introduce yourself and, you know, kinda just give a little background? Um, okay. Yeah. I'm Becky Jo Harris. I am an actress, uh, comedian, I'd say. I make my own content. Social media is a big deal to me. I kinda post on there. Um, I'm I do voice over. I do sketch comedy. I don't know. I just I try to put all my eggs into, like, all the baskets. Yeah. I I would say, like, an understatement on, like, the comedy and everything because I think you've always had this this knack for just making a scenario very, like, comedic and making it look natural. Um Oh, that's so sweet. Yeah. Yeah. No. I'm just it's so it's it was so funny because even when we were in class, I was like, you know what? This trick's gonna be, like, on SNL or something, or she's gonna be doing I I can already see you, like, doing impressions. In fact, I've I've seen a a few of your, um, like, videos and stuff where from because you went to California and you did some comedy stuff. Yeah. I, uh, I kinda find myself kinda going, uh, back and forth, but I take classes at the Groundlings. And that's a sketch comedy place, Melissa McCarthy. Um, let's see. Will Ferrell. All of the greats kinda, like, come out of Groundlings. Yeah. So I kinda bit the bullet and just went for it. Especially during the pandemic, they had online classes, so I did that. But, yeah, it's really helped me, I guess well, like, the podcast. Be bolder in my choices. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I I I definitely saw you eventually, like, playing with the with the big kids. You know what I mean? Like, because that's where our, like, the big players go. It's it's crazy. Yeah. It yeah. It's wild. Well, when you're saying you're an actress and I and I I I wanna not underplay that because you are, like, an actress. You know what I mean? Because, like, you're Right. You're doing like, I think I saw a clip of a podcast with you with Matt from, um, what was it? Uh, what he he has an acting studio up in in North Phoenix. Um, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh my god. I forgot his name. Deering. That's right. Deering. Deering studio. Yes. Phenomenal guy. Phenomenal studio. Um, but I remember seeing a clip, and and he was like, you're, like, you're Arizona famous. You know what I mean? Like, because I think everybody, like That was wild to hear because Yeah. I don't know. I think you get into your own little bubble, and then you have to take those moments where people kinda reflect that back on you. Like, oh, no. You are you're doing great. I can't forget that sometimes. I just start writing it down. Well, like like, I think the the big thing that a lot of people remember is, like, your offer pad commercials. Um, like, I remember the first time I saw that, and I was like, I know her. I I was telling my wife, like, I went to class with her. I know her. Well, it's wild because that was kinda like a local thing, but I got recognized at least two or three times just in public Yeah. For that. And then even just this last Halloween, I was dressed up as Liza Minnelli. And a girl walked up to me and was like, are you in those opera pad commercials? And I have her, like, bold lipstick on. Everything's like, oh, well, yes, darling. I I I was. Would you like a picture? Yeah. Oh, that's awesome. That's cool. Yeah. So, anyway, I just I just wanted I want, like, anyone listening to know, like, okay. Legit. Like, you're you're doing stuff, and keep an eye out because you'll I I definitely see you, like, on a big screen somewhere, so I just wanted to say that. I think my goal is, um, yeah, like a series regular on a show. If I got that, I would be content. Yeah. I can definitely see that. Yeah. Um, but so that's gonna that brings me into, like, my my first question. So, like, in one sentence, what does boldness mean to you? Boldness. Um, it's taken me a second to figure it out for myself. I've been doing acting for, like, seven god. Yeah. Since we started, which is, like, eight years ago. Mhmm. Right? So Wow. Oh, was it? It was, like, 02/2016, '2 thousand '17. Yeah. Yeah. So so, yeah, eight years. A whole lot to count. My fingers. What the heck? Boldness to me is being yourself. It's just plain and simple. Just, you know, not being afraid to just be yourself and knowing who you are and just going full out. I think as soon as I started being myself, like, you know, I got the bangs. You know, I'd always wanted to go back to bangs. I, um, I do more physical comedy, and my face, you know, moves. And and once I started putting that into my auditions, all of a sudden, I'm being flown out to places to shoot commercials and then work with, like, award winning directors. And and, you know, there's slow times where I kinda question being myself. Like, I think the last couple months, I'm in that weird area of, like, um, like, you wanna be real and you wanna, like, fit into whatever role they want you to be in. But then I also have to find out how do I put myself into that. So there's there's a lot of growing room, but I think first and foremost, being yourself. You know, that's that's interesting you say that because a lot of the times, we're too afraid to be ourselves, and it's like, I never really thought about it. But, uh, being bold is, yeah, like, being yourself. It's clear. Yeah. That's Starting from the very innermost self. It really is starting from the inner work, um, and not thinking you need to do exactly what you think they want. They're waiting to see what you can do. And so, um, again, I I'm still working on that. I mean, I've been doing it for eight years, but I still I think I finally figured that out. And so I'm working towards being, like, a % myself, % of the time. I think people can see it too. You know what I mean? Like, when you're trying to, like, be something else or be someone else, people can, like, sense that. And Yeah. Especially, like, people that know you. Like, if they if they sense, okay. Something's a little something's a little off. Spidey sense kinda kicks off. You know? Yeah. Yeah. I it's like, I think I've struggled I struggled with that for a while because, like, my, um, you know, like, I've got, like, ADHD, and I've got, you know I was just diagnosed with that. Yeah. Really? When when was that? Well, about a, uh, like, a year ago, my sister first kinda figured that out. She was like, oh, yep. I, you know, I'm I'm going, you know, to try to work on this. And so I decided, okay. I'm gonna I'm gonna see if I have it, and then I did. And I've actually been trying out some medication. Yeah. And I'm a big advocate for mental health. Yeah. Because I actually have a a bachelor's degree in psychology, so I thought that was a little smart to do. Yeah. Cool. That's cool. Yeah. I have two bachelors. Two. But, Yeah. I I'm kind of smart. Well, I Yeah. Smart. I had, like, a four year scholarship today, like, ASU, and and I finished my bachelor's of science in psychology in two years. And then I was like, ah, I have a four year scholarship. What else should I do? And then I decided, you know what? I'm not fun. I'm gonna do art studies. So I started doing, like, painting and drawing and that kind of stuff. And then I took an acting class, and then that's It all went. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But but when it comes back to the psychology and stuff, it it really is like, you have to advocate for yourself and figure out what's going on in here. You know? And that goes back to being yourself. So it takes a lot of work. It's It does. Crazy. Yeah. Yeah. It's weird because, like, I my whole life, I've always, like, what is wrong with me? You know what I mean? Like, because Yeah. You feel different. Yeah. You do what I'm doing. Like, I Well, go ahead. No. You go ahead. I was I was just gonna say I always felt like I had to struggle so hard and work so hard, but yet, like, when I would do that, it would only get me to, like, level with everyone else. I would never be able to, like, level up, you know? And it was, um, because my son, he has ADHD. And we through this process, you know, we're figuring out, like, Yeah. I'm looking at similarities here. I'm like, that? That's that's ADHD? Like and then I started looking at it more, and I'm like, okay. A lot of this stuff I got, that's me. I got this I thought this was more like That's been happening a lot. People are seeing stuff in their kids, and then, therefore, now they're able to, you know, diagnose themselves after years of just not knowing what's going on. Yeah. I was I was telling my wife this story when I was at my last job. We it it was the end of the day. We left the building, and I was like, you know, there's, like, probably a hundred yards from the building to the parking garage. And I was side by side with one guy from work, and I'm not I wasn't really a social person, a talkative person. And I'm, like, walking, and I'm tell having this inner dialogue with myself. Okay. You guys are walking side by side, so somebody should probably say something. So but I don't really like this guy. I don't really wanna say anything. Yeah. But it's gonna look weird if you don't say something, so you gotta say something. I'm like, okay. Well, what do you say? I don't know. Well, you know what? This is just me. This is who I am, so I'm not gonna say anything, and this is gonna be weird. Yeah. Okay. We'll just do it. We'll just like, that's who we are. He already knows you're a weirdo. And, like, okay. That's fine. And then we're going up the stairs, and then, like, he he he, uh, we split, and he goes, have a good night. Have a good night. That's all I say. And we're like, okay. See? We spoke something. And then it was just like Yeah. And then you're in your car and you're like, oh, no. He hates me now. I don't even know if I can ever even talk to this guy again because he probably thinks I'm so weird. And, like, oh my god. When I tell that story, people are like I I ask, you don't you don't have, like, this this dialogue? And they're like, no. Like, we just talked. And I'm like, Wash and talk organically. Once I started taking that medication, it's like a small dose. I can't even remember what it is. But, um, I know that I was unable to sit. And then I'm sitting with people. And I was so cognizant in one moment that I I wasn't worrying about creating a conversation. Like, what's the next step? What's the next step of social socialization? Okay. Um, uh, ask them how they're doing. Um, oh, did the they they got a new job. Maybe ask them about that. No. No. No. I was just, like, sitting there, and I was enjoying my tea. And then, you know, they started talking, and then I was like, oh. And then I oh my god. I was like, this is what it's like? Right? Isn't that weird? Like, it was the weirdest thing when all of a sudden, um, because because I the medicine I'm on now, um, I'm on Adderall. Like, in it Okay. Yeah. Yeah. And people think, like, oh, you want Adderall to get all, like, crazy and everything. And I'm like, it calms me. No. Like I I yeah. I I think I'm on, uh, something like a step before that, but I've even noticed when I drink coffee, I get tired. Yeah. Like, it it like, it gets me going, but, like, my eyes get kinda heavy. And then, like, everything for people with ADHD or ADD, it it, like, it does the opposite. Yeah. So when you're on Adderall or you're on this medication, it just quiets quiets Mhmm. It's it's such a different experience. Like, I I had this, uh, networking thing that I had to go to, and, normally, I would not I would be terrified of, like, networking events, and we had to talk to people. But I was doing this thing, and I was, like, just going and introducing myself to people. I made it a thing. Like, okay. I'm gonna, like, talk to, like, five people over here, and, like, I would just go around and start talking. And I wasn't, like, having this struggle. Like, okay. What do I say? Well, I should say you know, it was just natural. It's so weird. Yeah. Like, it's the weirdest thing. So that's crazy. Yeah. Has it helped your acting? Um, I believe it has. I was really worried that it was going to be a detriment because I was booking stuff. I felt like because I had that anxiety and, like, that ADHD, like, my brain's just going everywhere. But what it has done is help me hone in on like, if I'm in a dialogue scene, like, I can really, like, just I'm just listening to the person, and then I'm responding. Like, it it's really helped enhance my acting. And then, um, I'm going to, uh, take a class at the Groundlings, so I'm interesting to see, uh, interested to see if it helps my, like, improv. Mhmm. Because, like, one teacher, he's like, well, I'm gonna pass you, but he's like, it's just the weirdest thing. Like, one scene, you're gonna be on fire. You're on fire. You're listening. You're making jokes. You're adding. And then the next scene, you, like, don't listen to anything. And I was like, yeah. I don't I don't know. So I'm interested to see if that changes, if I'm able to be on fire the whole time. Yeah. And that was happening? Were you, like, on a medication, or were you No. I didn't really, like, I didn't think I really had, like, ADD or h. It it didn't make sense to me because I got straight a's in school, and that's why my parents were always like, oh, no. It was like, you know, she's super smart. I need four point o's, and I'm concentrating in in class, and I realized, oh, that was the hyper. That's what I hyper focused on was Yeah. Studying, um, and, like, socializing. I had no clue how to do that because I wasn't hyper focusing on that. I was hyper focusing on something I could control. Yeah. So And it's me, and it's it was probably that was probably a scene that you really liked, and you were hyper focused on it, which is why you were, like, on fire. Yes. Like, it was a character that I went into that I was like, oh, I love this character, and this character can focus. You know? And then it just it it felt like magic. And then, I guess, yeah, when I'm not interested in the scene from the start, my brain just starts going other places automatically even though I'm trying to get it to I I don't want that to happen. I'm really trying. You know? Yeah. And it's to the point where it you're trying so hard that to focus that now you're not focused at all because you're trying hard to focus. Mhmm. Mhmm. That's interesting. Yeah. So I'm curious. Like, what's, like, a significant bold move in your life or, like, in your career or, like, anything that you recently made where, you know, you thought, okay. This was completely necessary. This is, like, I needed to make this. And, like, why why did you do that? That? Uh, see, this is a hard one for me because I felt like I've I've been making, like like, small, bold moves. Mhmm. I guess maybe to someone else that's a, like, a big bold move. I don't know. Like, moving to LA. Like, that was a big bold move. Um, you know, gaining the moxie to ask for a referral for a a manager and then being said yes to. I'm like, yes. Here's a great manager. And it's like those small, bold moves that have led to like, I'm trying to think of a big, big, bold move, but I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. So here here's what I used to do, um, because I used to do growth coaching for real estate agents. And we used to talk about, like, um, moves or, like, things in their business that they needed to focus on. And we called them, you know, like, you know, little rocks and then, like, big boulders. And, like, the little rocks, they're like, okay. These are the things that need to get done in our business. Like, they need to, like, you know, happen or else, you know, the business doesn't really function. Like, they just be one of those things would, like, not make a huge difference in the grand scheme of things if, you know, for the business. But these big boulders, these are the things that are gonna, like, move the needle in, like, this is definitely gonna make me more money, and it's gonna move the business forward. And so that's how I kind of, like, look at what you're talking about. Like, there's these small little risks and small little things, but then there's, like, this big risk. Like, that that changes the direction of Got it. I think I've done two bold moves, and it is a business strategy because I do think kinda more business minded and also creatively. But, um, so I booked a commercial, like, a like, a bigger commercial, like, for Hulu, and I realized, okay. I went with my gut. I'm like, I'm gonna focus on this. I I love doing these commercials. I'm gonna focus on this. I'm gonna put my energy into that, and I'm not gonna do as many short indie films that drain my energy. I wanna put my energy into this stuff because it just felt right. Mhmm. Um, so then, like, after a year or two, people are like, so you're a commercial actor. I'm like, uh-oh. Okay. Now people are saying that, but it really was just, like, the natural thing I wanted to do at the time. But so now I'm so from that bold move to being a commercial actor and doing that stuff, I decided, okay. Let me do one more another bold move. Um, and over the last year, I decided, okay. I love commercials. I'm still gonna put energy into that, but I'm a start putting energy into the theatrical more so, like, union based, um, yeah, professional projects. So now I feel like I'm in that that, I don't know, rock and a hard place feeling of, like, you feel like you're not doing one thing and you're not doing the other thing. You're just, like, growing. I feel like that's a pretty bold move to be okay with being in that uncomfortable spot. So, yeah, twice I've done that with the indie to commercial acting and then commercial acting to professional. It's been those two two spots where I felt like, okay. You're being bold. You know? It's gonna maybe be a little stagnant, but that's okay. You know? You don't have to prove anything to anyone. You're just you know what the move is right now, and you have to shift that energy. So, yeah, if that makes sense if that makes sense. I don't know. Yeah. When did you decide to do that? Um, so that was, I think, last summer. Kinda yeah. Like, last summer. I I was like, you know, I I miss I miss doing indies. I miss doing, like, short films. I was doing short films and indie films, but more so for people who are already new. Mhmm. You know? And I decided, well and I got this new manager, and I was getting, like, good auditions, right, for, like, Ryan Murphy and and that new show, The Pit. I I got an audition for one of the main characters for that. And I was like, oh, you know what? I'm gonna start putting my energy into that. So, yeah, I think it was around, like, May. So I'm still in that wonky zone of just trying to figure it out, and it scares me because I want to be doing all of these things, but I know it's good to kinda, like, be in that stasis for a moment. Yeah. Like, what do you think motivated you or inspired you to really kind of, like, take that that step in that direction? Like, despite, like, seeing all these challenges that she knew were gonna be there. Well, I was so comfortable doing, like, the commercial stuff. Okay. And then to get a little deeper, my mom passed away very suddenly last On social security. 2023. And it was it was actually very sudden. Yeah. No. It was crazy. And I kept hearing her voice in my head, like, you know, just be confident. Go for it. Be confident. Believe in yourself. That's the only thing holding you back because you don't believe believe in yourself. You're amazing. And I think having that and then doing the inner work as well, you know, finding out, okay. I have ADHD. I just been really that's what I've been focusing on is, like, the inner work. What do I want? Oh, I wanna be serious regular on a on, like, a multi cam or a single cam comedy. Okay. Then I I have to make that bold move of being uncomfortable. So, yeah, there's a lot of different things, so many catalysts that just, I don't know, have driven me. Yeah. Wow. I'm I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. That's That's okay. Well Right. God. It's it's crazy losing it's like she's the most important person in my life. Like, I was living with her halftime, and it was so jarring. And I did and I was still, you know, I still went and did a print shoot for, like, NAU, like, two weeks later. And I still, like, was, you know, doing auditions and booking stuff. But I didn't really feel like I was, like, being true to myself. And then finally, I yeah. I don't know. So it happened in October 2023, and then around May 2024, I was like, f it. I'm gonna I'm gonna be myself. I'm still struggling with that, but that was a really bold move for me. I big people pleaser. You know? But, yeah, so much gonna work, Matt. Yeah. So much inner work. Yeah. For a lot of people, they probably would have given up at that point. You know? Yeah. I I learned a lot about myself. I realized, oh, wow. I do come from a very strong, like like, family. Like, my mom, she was always so just strong. She just kept going. And then my dad, he passed away 2019, and he he was, like, a businessman. Like, he owned a dealership. And, like, something about that those personalities, I think I have it in myself. I was really so proud of myself. I'm like, wow. I gave myself the space to grieve. I'm a very emotional person, so I I was able to do that. But then also, it's just like taking one one foot and step the, uh, in front of the other and just just making little moves, little bold moves every couple weeks and then finding the strength to keep going, I guess. Uh, Wow. Wow. Yeah. Are you still because last night, I checked you were doing aesthetician work. Are you still doing that? Yeah. I do I do that. I have, like, a handful of clients that I still, you know, have that I love, and they just I don't know. They they're like good friends of mine now. But I think that's another bold move I'm not to take is going, hey. I'm gonna have to set that aside. I'm, like, fully go acting. Even my tax lady is like, yeah. You kinda broke Avon. And then their acting stuff, though, that was really good. Yeah. So I was like, oh, interesting. So that's gonna be another bold move. That's that's a good position to be in. I know who. The acting work outpaces the, uh, the survival. I can't believe it. That's that's awesome. Yeah. I, um, so you ever watch those videos where, you know and it's this is it gets kinda gross, but, you know, when they take the your, like, your nose and, like, they they scrape it to get the, you know, like because that's, you know, ADHD thing. Dump it. I yeah. You hyperfocus on, like Yeah. So so you may have noticed I got a little splotchy on my nose. Oh, no. I didn't notice, but I wasn't gonna say anything. Yeah. I got the so I got one of those little suction things, you know, you saw you see where they they, you know, suck on it. Oh my gosh. I got one of those too. I was like, I just need this. Yeah. It it also comes with, um, the little tools. You know what I mean? Where they Yeah. The little and so sometimes I'll add in it. I'll, like, scrape it, and my mind will go off. Like, oh, that's, like, relaxing, seeing all the little oils come out. I don't know what that is. Like, why Yeah. It's so calming. I think it's because it's something we can control. When we feel we we can control something, our mind's quiet. It's like, oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. And then you get the little, like, blisters and stuff. Yeah. I kinda, like, went too much here one day, and I was like, oh oh, no. Yeah. Oh my god. The sad thing is this isn't the first time. Like, it was a a while. Like, it was, like, on this side over here. It's like, I don't know what like, I do the same thing. Like, I know the outcome. I just keep doing it. Like, my boyfriend is always like, why did why did you do that? I'm like, I just thought this time would be different. He's like, yeah. But the last three times, it hasn't been different. So Yeah. I know. My my wife will do the same thing. She looks at me like, didn't you just, like, do that the other day? And I'm like, mhmm. Yeah. Yeah. But I feel like if I do it again, it might maybe my skin is more resilient now. Like, it's like I'm testing things out. It's like I'm a scientist. I need to test it out. I need to see. We don't really quite know, but we do. I'm curious. Like, looking back, like, what's the most valuable lesson you think you learned from from taking your your bold moves? Um, that there's always a growth period, like a, um, just an awkward phase. You know? Growing pains and then just having to remember there's something on the other side of that. So every time I've gone through growing pains and pushed myself outside of my comfort zone, at first, yeah, it was, like, a little rocky. And all of a sudden, something clicks, and then you're off to the races. And then, like, two more years down the road, I'm have to reframe and do that all over again. But, yeah, that's what I've learned. Is there, like, any from your experience, like, any practical advice you would give somebody who's maybe, like, a little hesitant on, like, making their own bold moves? That's a really tough one because I have to think about what oh, no. No. What did I do? Here. Say that again. Let me let me think ahead. Yeah. So, like, is there if you were talking to somebody and you were, like, looking to give them advice, um, because maybe they're hesitant about, like, taking their own bold moves in life, is there anything you would say that has helped you to help them? Okay. There's no wrong choice. Everything's meant to happen how it's supposed to happen. Like, let's say you turn in an audition, and you realize an hour later, oh, that's what I should have done instead. And well, great. That audition was supposed to happen so that you can have that revelation an hour later so that next audition could be even better. Everything is supposed to happen for a reason. There is no wrong way to do it. The only wrong way to do it is to not do it at all. Yeah. I would agree with that. I I don't think a lot of I I don't think things happen for, like, coincidences. You know what I mean? Right. They're all designed and choreographed, and I think everything does, like, play the way it's supposed to play for good or bad. You know? Like Yeah. You just never know what's gonna lead to what. So I might as well have fun with it. I think have Yeah. Just have fun with life. I mean, I think people are so worried about what other people think of themselves. They're worried about fitting in with, like, the culture. You know? Oh, no. Side parts aren't in anymore. We gotta do, um, uh, middle part. Okay. Flare jeans. That's what you have. No. I just I decided, what am I doing? I'm gonna have fun with my life. I'm gonna have fun with this audition, and I'm going to, um, I'm gonna do the classes that I wanna do even though my friends are like, oh, don't do that class. Do this class. No. Go with what you feel in your gut. Again, that comes back to the inner work. Be so comfortable with yourself that when you get those intuitions that you know they're they're right. Yeah. That's one thing I had a hard time learning was, like, usually that gut feeling, that gut intuition Yeah. Being is most likely the right one, not the one that I'm trying to, like, figure out in my head. That's interesting. It's it's so true. I try my whole life, I've tried to fight it, and then yeah. It just burns you. It just burns you. When you try to fight that gut intuition, then all of a sudden you get burned. I know. And then all of a sudden you're working on something or or doing something that you're like, why did I agree to this? I knew it was gonna be bad. If I could've just been uncomfortable for one second to say no, I would've saved myself months and months of this, like, I don't know, whatever. Ugh. Yeah. It reminds me when you when you watch videos of these famous actors who said, yeah. I turned down, like, x y z role or whatever. And you're like, what? But then you watch the movie, and you're like, yeah. I I don't think it would have worked with them. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I've I've been better about that's oh, that's another good bold move that I finally am starting to figure out, saying no and then being comfortable with that and knowing like, I'm always worried I'm gonna upset someone, but I'd be more upset if I had to, like, put myself through that. I'd be upset of myself. I'd rather be happy with myself. You know? I'm upset at myself for saying yes. Is is there is there a habit or a mindset that you practice that you follow, like, on a daily that helps you stay, you know, like, courageous, proactive, old? That's a really good question. I've been trying to reframe my mindset of even just saying, like, I like, go to your heart and say, oh, I love you to yourself. Wow. I'm so proud of you. Unless all the things why you're proud of yourself. And then just practicing that self love. I try to do that every day. And then, of course, something slips through like, oh, idiot. You know? And then I I'm like, oh, no. No. Not an idiot. That's what you just decided to do in the moment. That's okay. That's past. So I think practicing self love. Yeah. Okay. That's good. Oh, and then I've been trying to meditate more and, like, go to the gym more. Yeah. Just the core stuff that builds the building blocks of who I am. Yeah. I think a lot of people forget that the the spiritual part is a real, you know, is a real part internally. You know what I mean? You gotta really hone that. That's cool. It's I mean, that's, you know, our bodies are all energy. And if your energy is just, like, stuck or just, you know, you feel wonky, your your external isn't going to look good either. Mhmm. Uh, it's so true. Yeah. Um, k. So these are here's some quick fire questions. What's your your favorite book or resource for bold inspiration? Oh, god. I don't know. It could be like a book, YouTube video, like, just any resource that you have. It's just a hard one for me. Oh my gosh. Well okay. It's funny. I was reading some stuff on Matthew McConaughey, and I actually, like, listened to his book Greenlight. That was a fun one. That was good. I I love I love autobiographies, um, like, of just actors. So Bryan Cranston's book, Jenna Fischer, and, um, Matthew McConaughey. I think I gifted you that Jenna Fischer one, didn't I? It was on Audible. Oh, yes. Yes. I listened to that one. I've been doing, like, the audiobook. And that one oh, and Molly Shannon. Hers is is just wonderful. She because she she's gone through life struggles, and it's just wonderful. Yeah. What's the best piece of advice that you've ever received? Be confident in yourself. And that was that was like my mom said that, like, a month before she passed away. She's like, I just wish you would see yourself see yourself how other people see you. That's what she said. I wish you would see yourself how I see you. Wish you would see yourself how other people see you. Interesting. Because, like, that's the only thing holding you back is you being confident in yourself. I'm like, oh, that's huge. That was I think about that today. That's interesting. So, like, I I resonate with that because, like, I I do have, like, you know, like, self image issues, you know, like, body image issues, you know, because growing up as a kid, I was severely overweight. And it was funny because I remember looking back at a picture. This was after I had lost some weight. But in the moment, I was thinking, like, I was like, oh. But I look back at a picture, I'm like, oh, I didn't I wasn't, like, overweight. And, like, in the moment, though, you're just thinking, oh, I'm so horrible. You know? Same. I look back because I felt like I was on, like, the chubbier side, you know, kinda growing up. Like, you always have those awkward years in, like, fourth and fifth grade or whatever. And then and you look back at at pictures and you think, look at that vibrant kid. It's so sad that she held herself back because she thought, oh, I don't look good in a bikini or and I hate my glasses. Really, I look at her. I'm like, oh, you're just so cute. Yeah. We get it our way sometimes. Yeah. You kinda think about what what was going in my mind at that time that prevented me from, like, taking bold moves. You know? Like, that's Yeah. Interesting. Um, what's one word, um, or in one word, how would you encourage listeners to be bolder? Oh oh my gosh. Enjoy. Enjoy. Like, enjoy yourself, enjoy what you're doing. I think, uh, in I'm gonna go with that, I guess. I don't like that, But I know. I know. Joy too. Yeah. It really comes from, like, a positive space. Yeah. Being walled comes from a positive space. %. Um, cool. Where can our listeners find you? How can they connect with you? Uh, so you can find me on mainly Instagram. That's where I like to post most, um, at it's becky joe harris, I t s e e c k y j o h a r r I s. And it's the same for TikTok, I believe. It's becky joe harris. So I've been trying to post on that more. But And we're we're gonna have a, uh, special guest page on our website for you. So you'll have, like, a little bio, your picture. There'll be some, like, links to all your stuff. Um, so that is the boldmovespodcastaz.com. Well, not the boldmoves, but oldmovespodcastaz.com. Um, but we'll we'll make sure we'll get your your stuff up there, and we'll have some links. And, um, yeah, they'll be able to to connect you. Becky, it's been awesome having you on here, and it's been really fun, like, connecting with you. Because I know, like, we haven't, like, spoken in probably, what, I don't know how many years since the you were in class. But Like, I mean, six years. Yeah. That's cool. But, like, I I I see you all the time, like, on I mean, well, I'm like, no. We've we've chatted. That's why it's so, like, what? Yeah. That's funny. Very cool. Alright. Well, I am going to push the stop button here, and we are gonna stop recording. And then that is a wrap for this episode of the Bold News Podcast. Thanks for tuning in to Bold News with Matt Torres, where we celebrate Arizona's fiercest innovators, risk takers, and dreamers. We hope this episode sparked fresh ideas and fueled your courage to take action. Remember, real change begins with that first brave step. Stay connected for behind the scenes insights, exclusive episodes, and community updates. Follow us on social media to share your journey. For more inspiration, resources, and connections, visit Bold Moves Podcast AZ.com. 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